Sunday, November 29, 2009

Mini Updates :-)

On October 29, I posted something about a new lip gloss line called Dope Lips. Well, unfortunately there has been some drama or a misunderstanding (per Teyana's twitter) with her and the other person she was partnering with. So, no more Dope Lips. Darn... I was looking forward to that lip gloss line!

Anywho, I hope you all had a fun and relaxing Thanksgiving Holiday! I enjoyed my time at home (Philadelphia) - I got to see a lot of family and friends that I don't get to see often. Now I am back in MD, back to work tomorrow! Just wanted to check in with everyone :-)

Lastly, here is a pic of my hair. It's been a full year now that I've been natural, and I got my hair trimmed (only the 3rd trim in the entire year) and my sis cornrowed one side. I likey.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Reasons Why I Love My Natural Hair

As I approach my 1 Year Anniversary of being au naturel, I wanted to do a little post listing reasons why I love my natural hair, and I'd also like to hear why YOU love your natural hair (for those of you who are natural, or even those transitioning). Feel free to "tag" yourself and use this on your own blog :-)

Reasons why I love my natural hair...
  1. My hair is healthier and stronger
  2. I no longer have the dry scalp issues I had when I was getting relaxers
  3. It's EASY
  4. It has improved my confidence
  5. I can be out in the rain or take showers w/no worries re: my hair!
  6. I adore my tight/tiny coils and curls
  7. I feel like more of an individual because no one's hair is like mine. No 2 textures are alike!
Leave some comments telling why YOU love your natural hair! :-)


Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Reactions to My Natural Hair

Hello, Everyone! So someone asked that I post about my experiences and people's reactions since I've gone natural. I made the decision to go natural in May of 2008. My last relaxer was in March 2008 and I did my BC (Big Chop, where you cut off all of your relaxed hair) November 2008 with about 4 inches of new growth. A lot of people told me they liked it. My mother did not. She asked why, then said, "Well, your hair grows fast, so..." My sister, who did my BC, shook her head when she was done and said, "I guess this what people do when they turn 30! You have NO hair!!" Funny thing is, these comments didn't bother me, though - I knew it was a shock. Shoot, I've never had short hair in all my life, it was a shock to me initially but I got used to it in a few minutes and LOVED it. It felt good to not be confined or restricted by my hair. No more stress of touching up my new growth and keeping it straight and "laid". My hair could just... be. And so could I.

Next I went to visit a friend of mine and his parents. I've known them for awhile, about 5-6 years so they know me pretty well. My friend's dad says, "I guess all women go through this, they have to cut their hair and do the natural thing, then they get it permed again." Umm... No. I am not getting another relaxer. This is permanent, and it wasn't just something "to do" for me. OK so all that was on the FIRST day. LOL So yes, you have to have a strong mind, and I knew WAY before I did my BC that I was sure about this. So the comments, although annoying, didn't make me regret my decision.

I met the guy I am currently seeing less than one month post-BC. So obviously HE had no issue. I had very little hair. LOL He still thought I was pretty. ;-) My friends complimented me and to my knowledge no one has said anything mean. One guy DID ask why did I cut my hair, because I was "fine before" (fine as in cute/pretty/whatever!). My reply to him was my hair does not make me, I am the same person and look just as good, if not better, now. He was like, "Yeah, you right. I just gotta get used to it." Sigh... PEOPLE. Again, good thing I have a strong mind ;-)

So. Before cutting my hair I will say I obsessed about natural hair and researched EVERYTHING online about how to care for different hair textures, products to try, I went on YouTube looking at vids of people doing their hair and followed countless hair blogs. All that research, and I learned TONS. Some of my friends said I was doing too much and I didn't need to do "research", to just do it. Mind u, my hair had been relaxed since I was 12 when I BEGGED my mom to give me one so I could have straight hair like my friends (proof that kids don't know sh**!). Anyway, I did my research so when I did my BC I knew what I was doing. It took me very little time to narrow down the products and techniques that would and would not work for me. People complimented my hair and even said things like, "I want to go natural but my hair is not like yours." Wait. Hold up. I have type 4 hair. Afro, kinky hair. VERY VERY tight curl pattern. It's not about having "hair like mine", it's about knowing how to manage YOUR hair. Hence my prior research. Secondly, I DESPISE the whole "good hair/bad hair" terminology and wish people would stop using those words. Healthy hair is good hair.

OK I am rambling but after all was said and done, those SAME people who said I was doing too much with my researching and whatnot, NOW ask me for hair tips and love my hair. They ask me how do I do this and that, and I just look like, "But you said..." LOL Anyway, besides those initial reactions on the first day, and that one male friend with his ignorance, I haven't gotten negative comments, it's been all positive. I see people stare but not in a disgusted way, more like they are wondering "How'd she do that?" I find it hilarious. And ladies, don't think that men won't like you if you cut your hair. Let me tell you, since cutting mine men come at me more than they did when I had a relaxer. Now THAT surprised me! I don't know if it is the fact that I don't look like everyone else, or my confidence level or what, but they definitely approach me more.

Alright, now let's hear some of your experiences. I have 30-something followers so I'd like more than 2-3 comments. LOL Men can comment, too - tell how you feel about women with natural hair. I look forward to ur comments.


Today's curly fro...

OK I should have my blogpost up sometime tonight regarding natural hair reactions - I wanted to post last night but I left my laptop at work :( Here is my hair today. Not a big deal, right? But I have NEVER worn my hair completely out while at work, and only twice outside of work. Weird, I know. But now that I've done it, I'm really feelin' it! So I will be wearing it this way for a minute!

Sent from KeetaRay's® T-Mobile BlackBerry Curve

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Coming Soon: "Natural Hair Reactions"

Coming Soon: It will be a year that I have been natural on the 22nd of this month. A reader ask that I do a post on my experiences with people's reactions to my natural hair. I felt this was a good time as I've had a year (almost) to hear and see people's reactions, if any. So sometime this week, I'll post. I'd also like you all who are natural to post your comments on your experiences since going natural, as well, on that blog post. Look forward to hearing from you!


Saturday, November 7, 2009

Twist Out

I did a twistout Thursday night - but not my usual twistout. This time I made the twists smaller. My hair is really soft and is holding well on Day 2. Here is what I did:

  1. Co-washed (wash w/o shampoo, just conditioner) with Herbal Essence Totally Twisted (fyi: I always put Olive Oil in my conditioners and shake well - about 2-3 tablespoons)
  2. Applied my leave-in conditioner, Kinky Curly Knot Today.
  3. Finger-parted my hair in small sections, starting from the back. For each section I applied a small amount of my shea butter mixture (mixed shea butter, jojoba oil and coconut oil in a small container). After applying the shea mixture, I then applied a small amount of ic Fantasia Olive Gel (for hold) and then 2-strand twisted. I did this over my entire head, it took about 50 min to an hour.
  4. Sat under the dryer for 20-30 min just to help it set and get rid of excess moisture, b/c I was going to bed soon.
  5. Untwisted in the morning - Make sure it's COMPLETELY dry when untwisting or it WILL FRIZZ! Don't rake ur fingers thru the twists, that will also cause frizz. Just pull the twists apart in 1 or 2 more sections to create fullness; fluff, and style!
Hope these tips help!! The first pic is day 1, the second pic is day 2. I just slept with a satin bonnet on last night and fluffed it up this morning.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Wise Words from my Mentor

I had to repost this. This is from my business mentor, Tishina Pettiford. She is at the TOP level in the business I am in and I'm learning so much from her. But take a look at this quote she posted on Facebook:

Tishina Pettiford - Question. Why do people say "That's good for u"? As if they don't want the same thing. Who wouldn't want to make in month what most make in a year, Make ur own schedule and drive a free Bentley? What they should say is I don't want to work for what u have. Creating success is 2 hard and I want to do what's easy for me. Which keeps me unhappy and unfullfilled. Speak the truth.

I totally agree. Don't be afraid to WORK for what you want, people. If you're interested, contact me.